A Mama's Guide to How to Rock Valentine's Day
Pregnancy is a beautiful time in a woman's and a couple's life. However, most women also feel lonely, unworthy, and unsexy during this period. We know pregnancy is no cakewalk for a mother, even though it may look picture perfect on social media. And it's not just the woman who goes through a tremendous change. Pregnancy affects a couple as a whole.
All the stress in your life may make it hard for you to relax or bond with each other. You might feel this is the point where your pre-maternity body goes to die. Or you might think your partner would never look at you the way he did when you went on your honeymoon. Or you might just be upset that from now on, a baby will dictate your life. And don't even get started on the backache, bloating, and irritability. Right?
But it would help if you bounced back up for the sake of your partner and yourself. Take it upon yourself this Valentine's to make it the best and cherish it for a couple more years because, honestly, Valentine's will get way more challenging now. So take whatever alone time you can get with your partner.
Here are our quick tips!
Let's play dress-up
I don't know about you but dressing up almost always lifts me. It's an instant pick me up. I urge you to get out of those pajamas no matter how good they might make you feel and wear something sexier, more feminine, more you. I know this is probably a big ask, especially if you are anywhere near to your third trimester, but trust me, this one is like a bitter pill that makes you feel great in the end.
For the women going, "I don't have the body for it anymore.", " I am not comfortable with how I look.". Please stop, don't do this to yourself. You look just like you are supposed to with a tiny human inside you. You look beautiful. Embrace yourself.
Paint the town red
Ask yourself, "how long has it been since I went out to have fun?" Most moms-to-be I know would instead leave that question unanswered. It's a known fact that maternity is harrowing on the body and mind and can make you lose touch with your inner self.
This Valentine's, let's change that. Go out with your partner! Whatever your jam is, go for it. You must, at all times, be careful and not overdo things. But you can still enjoy this day to the fullest. Eat what pleases you, break a leg or wander in a museum or park you like. You can do this.
Is there a better excuse to hit the salon or spa than on Valentine's day? You are in dire need of a new hairdo. Plus, taking care of your hair in pre-baby times will get it out of the way when the baby finally comes. And you'll always look prim and put together even in your hospital pictures. Are you interested in it now? While you’re at it, also grab some nursing wear to remain hassle-free later.
And what does a full-fledged spa session sound like right now? Heavenly? Yes? So book yourself one. You deserve it. For moms who are past their due date, a massage down the lower back can be beneficial and bring on your labor.
Write your baby a love note.
Love is love. You might find this somewhat unusual, but writing your baby-to-be a love note is an excellent way to prepare for them and connect with them mentally.
Most moms forget that the baby joins their existing life, not the other way round. It might sometimes be challenging to bond with your baby right off the bat. Chill, this is normal. Writing a note for your baby will be a super precious gift for them when they grow up and something for you to read when the going gets tough.
Bring back the old days
So what if you're pregnant? Does that mean everything you and your partner used to do until now goes out of the window? Hell, no. Ok, you can't down as many bottles as you used to, but everything else stays.
Yet, somehow many couples stop doing the things they used to do together as soon as they conceive. It makes no sense. There is something called pre-baby bonding(I totally didn't make that up), and you aren't doing it right.
Women need to push back the idea that babies and romance don't go hand in hand. It's like they say, romance begins in the brain. For a fun romantic evening, bring your partner and write each other new promises for your new life ahead. We promise this will keep the conversation flowing and bring you closer to each other.